Dear Meg-Advice from a CD

Order questions Newest / Oldest first.

Dear Lynn and Meg,
I am writing to introduce myself as a 70 year old crossdresser.

Living in Savannah, GA, I am wondering of you have any members who live close to me on this side of the state?

It gets lonely doing this by myself.

Thanks for all your great work.


Leona

Dear Leona,

Sigma epsilon security guidelines prevent me from providing specific details of current members. but there are a few members who live down that way.

I would suggest posting an introduction and inquire about members down that way on the sigma website. I'm sure someone would be receptive.

Hugs and best of luck.
Meg

Dear Meg,
Dear Meg, I have never reached out in any way regarding cross dressing, but, as I get a little older, I have realized that I am going to regret being fearful. My problem is that I do not identify with wanting to dress fully as a female, or to socialize as a female. I have read that I may be a "fetish CD" ? I have some kind of obsession with panties and shape wear, hosiery, swimwear, bras and breast forms, and I pray that there might be some avenue to meet kind and healthy guys with similar interest. Frankly I feel pretty nervous looking at the text I have just authored... but I am emboldened at this point and would sincerely like guidance on how to meet others. I feel a connection to Atlanta, having lived in the area twice before.. anyway thanks Meg!!
Rich from NC

Dear Rich from NC,

Meg

Dear Lynn and Meg,
I would love some advice , on how to come out and tell my wife of 37 years that I have a strong passion for crossdressing . I don't want to shock her and am afraid she will leave ,but I would rather just come out and tell her before she comes home one day and finds me all dressed up. I'm am torn on how to go about this and run different scenarios through my head every day,. Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Thank you in advance
Barbara Conti

I'm thinking that this is the most asked question ,please help I don't know where to turn any more
Barbara Conti

Dear Barbara Conti,
I would advise that you tell her before she finds out in an 'accidental' way. I sort of found out by accident because I saw a large expenditure at Frederick's of Hollywood, then I searched his 'man-cave' and found a dozen or more articles of lingerie. I wasn't going to say anything, but he knew his 'stash' had been disturbed and in his heart he wanted to tell me about this for some time. We had a wonderful 'first of many' talks. My spouse has a deep understanding of his/her own psyche and his/her desire to express femme. She is able to articulate these matters intelligently and calmly.

I would suggest you spend some time in your own head and heart and think about what you want to say instead of going in blindly. Consider how she may react and are you willing to respect some of her hesitancy if she has any? For example, if she prefers you don't dress in her presence, are you willing to honor that or at least give her time to adjust? This news to a wife who is not expecting it can be extremely shocking, even devastating. Be calm, understanding....listen to her feelings. Often wives come around and are very accepting. Our group can help greatly here! Most of our members are married and spouses are accepting - though there are different levels of that.

Feel free to call me or my spouse before you talk to her. And after - if she wants to talk, I'm happy to do so. Good hope to you!
Lynn

Dear Barbara Conti,

My wife discovered my secret and I wished I had told her before that discovery. As Lynn stated you need to spend time thinking of the best way to approach the tipic, but you need to do it before she discovers on her own.

I would suggest you do some soul searching on why you do this,when it started.etc.



Meg

Dear Meg,
My husband and I have been married for a little over 10 years and I am pretty sure he is a cross dresser. He has done a couple of fem Halloween costumes and looks very good in them, and he has a few very nice wigs. While I do his makeup for the Halloween costumes I am sure he has his own somewhere based on comments he made about my application of makeup. I would love him to open up to me about this because we could have so much fun with this. How can I get him to share this secret with me or how can I let him know that I am ok with this without scaring him?
I wish I "knew"

Dear I wish I "knew",

Sorry it has taken me so long to respond.

There are a few things you can do:

1. Just come out and ask, and tell him you are 100% fine either way.

2. Engage in watching a movie or TV show with tones of Crossdressing, and you can comment it looks like fun. This will allow you to gauge his reaction and maybe it will lead you to suggestion # 1
3. Attend a live drag show. Same as suggestion # 2 but more entertaining.

4. Contact our outreach director and she can send you a sample newsletter. You can print it out and leave on the coffee table. It has pictures and articles of our monthly events. Print it out and leave on the coffee table. tell him looks like these girls have all the fun.

Best of luck and please update us on the results.
Meg

Dear Meg,
My husband is a crossdresser, I have known about it since early in our relationship, but he never leaves the house dressed mainly because he does not want to shave off his massive beard. My only issue is he has horrid fashion sense, he can not match colors, wears conflicting patterns, has a few pieces of LARGE gaudy costume jewelry, and will wear inappropriate shoes for whatever his outfit of the day is. How can I offer fashion advice to him in a way that will not come across as me making fun of him?
Clueless spouse

Dear Clueless spouse,
I am laughing only cause my first time out in public my wife was apprehensive although she wanted me to represent her. It was funny. So maybe you need to give him some girly advice,honestly we are clueless. We will see a 20 year old rocking something and think a 40 year old crossdresser can pull it off which we cannot.

The beard in my opinion he wants to remain connected to his masculinity which is understandable. When I'm not dressed enflame I dont shave and try to cling to my masculine side.


Meg

My name is Meg and I am a 50 year old crossdresser. I have been married for 26 years to a wonderful woman who tolerates my dressing and getting out with the girls.

I have been a member of Sigma Epsilon since 2007 and believe my experience will help others along their journey.